Careful With Everything

Mar 26, 2019

Careful With Everything

I have a student named Jean. The first time I really met Jean was during class sign in, when without asking, she walked bravely around the front desk and hugged everyone working behind it. When she went into the classroom, I looked at one of my coworkers and said, “Whoa, who is that? She just, goes for it.” The reply was, “That’s Jean, she comes and hugs all the desk staff before every class she takes. She will hug you everytime, now.” And from that moment on she has hugged me before every class and multiple times a week, if I am lucky. She is tender and generous giver of love.

She came in early for class yesterday to buy a rose quartz crystal for her three year old granddaughter, Charlie. During the purchase Jean explained how Charlie  always tenderly picks up the clear crystal Jean has, looks at it with childlike wonder and then so cautiously puts it down. Since pink is Charlie’s favorite color so Jean was very excited to surprise her with a Rose or pink colored one of her own. Jean went on to say, that it’s okay when Charlie picks up her clear crystal because she is very CAREFUL. She emphasised that her granddaughter is very CAREFUL with everything.

I thought to myself, a three year old who is careful with everything? I am not so used to seeing or hearing about this type of behavior. Then I thought, “careful with everything” isn’t even a quality toddlers have even really had time to learn. I continued thinking on the subject and realized that Charlie must have been born careful and then immediately realized, NO! She was born FULL of CARE. There is a difference between learning to be careful with objects, animals or people vs. being FULL of CARE for objects, animals and people. Charlie must have been born a tender heart, someone who hugs little things, speaks quietly instead of shouting, walks softly instead of tromping. How did she cultivate this sensitivity at such a young age!? How can we encourage more children to be so tender hearted and FULL of CARE? The answer to myself was that she was born with it, and those qualities and attributes must have been recognized and NURTURED by her family.  

SO I want to THANK  Jean for her fine nurturing skills and for seeing inside of a child what qualities to reward and nurture. My hope is that all parenting and grandparenting can move this way. The observance of children’s natural skills and qualities followed by a support system so children can grow confident with themselves and the qualities that are inherent in them from birth.

I know that Charlie must be learning from Jean to love and be loved just as we learn from Jean to love and be loved before every class. She’s a leader of love!

How can we as adults cultivate inside of ourselves a way of being more FULL of CARE rather than simply CAREFUL with the situations in our lives? How can we teach our younger generation to have a genuine sweetness even an intelligent innocence when seeing and handling the world?

Thank you Jean.

Mar 2, 2019

Soften & Enjoy

You have hopefully heard it said many times that when we practice for ourselves we practice for the benefit of all beings. The effort, thought and energy we put into our practice first creates a positive impact on our life force and then goes out into the universe to create a positive impact on the world around us. Isn’t that amazing concept!?

If this is the case wouldn’t we want to practice next to the most positive, fluid thinking, relaxed, intelligent yogis in the room to catch that vibe first? Wouldn’t WE want to BE those yogis who exude life force energy and a peacefulness that UP’s the vibration in the room? Sure we ALL would and we all do want that for ourselves and want that for others. So how? Simply, LET GO and ENJOY.


One thing I emphasis in my classes to help get into that flow state of UPing the vibe and generating positive life force is to SOFTEN. So many of people come into the yoga room with very serious faces or rigid bodies ready for a good workout or to beat their overactive minds into submission for an hour. That tension and mindset can be palpable to others in the room and for sure is palpable to the formless spirit inside. When students are taking themselves too seriously in class I will ask that we all take a satisfying breath in and soften the outer form so the formlessness inside can start to move and enjoy itself. To allow the magical and medicinal properties of the asana practice to take over and move through us ALL. To allow the over tight, overworked and unnecessary tensors to RELAX and ENJOY the potency of the practice.


Many more of the magical benefits of asana will show up for us when we LET GO, stop taking ourselves so seriously and SOFTEN ourselves to happiness and even silliness at times so energy can flow through us with ease. As much as asana is about concentration and meditation it is about enjoying to the fullest capacity the TIME you have set aside to befriend yourself and learn yourself anew. This is one way we can UP our vibration and send it out into the world.

Feb 17, 2019

Receiving Guides to a Great Path of Life

It’s rare for it to rain in San Diego, but when it does our mother soaks it up with joy and appreciation. Sometimes she is begging for rain and rain does not come. Disasters come, famish comes but not rain. And as we are just a small circle within the large circle created from the cycles of nature, the same cycles can be seen in our human lives. At times, when we are dying from thirst, there is no water. But just like our mother, when the rain does start to fall, we run out and throw our heads back with open mouths to drink and laugh at how miraculous it seems that the rain has come pouring down to quench us at the most perfect moment in time. Some call this coincidence, I call this seeing the magic in life. Whatever we choose to call these synchronicities, they are best to be recognized, as they are guides to show us we are on the GREAT path of LIFE.

I woke up this morning to the rain. I began to understand an amazing and funny symbolism that for the past two days, our city has been nurtured by water falling from the heavens as the rain has poured down onto her to grow a lush green coat, and for the past two days I too have been completely saturated and nourished with support and safety from all of my earth angels who have been making it rain down on me.

I am forever grateful to you for teaching me how to be more graceful in the art of receiving. Caregiving has always seemed natural for me; I think for it is something I have control over. Carereceiving has always seemed slightly uncomfortable. As I think for many of us, it puts us into a state of vulnerability and surrender like no other can. It is truly a beautiful art form. I pray that we all become masters of carereceiving because it is changing my every cell and allowing me the space to understand this healing process so I can emerge as a whole caregiver.

I appreciate you. I appreciate you. Your words, thoughts and prayers of kindness, love and healing have held me up and kept me feeling strong, safe and fill of life. I would not be me without YOU. It is true, I promise you, that which we see in others is only a reflection of our own truth. I see you. I love you.